~You Seem So…..~

It happened again. That statement…”You seem so together.  I can’t imagine you ever raising your voice at your kids, your house must be so calm”….Um no??? Wait a sec while I pick my laughing body off the floor!

I’m not sure why some people see me as that woman who is on her “A” game, unruffled by the crazy in my house. Both batches of my kids (grown and still at home) laugh out loud when they hear someone say something about my calm spirit, one in which I never yell at them. They know otherwise…

I’d love to say I am that person. Wouldn’t we all??

 Actually, she does not exist… except in our own imaginations when observing others. We have no idea of what goes on in the lives of those who surround us in an ordinary day, at the grocery, carpool line, work, gym class or just passing by in our cars. Everyone looks Instagram worthy as we unknowingly pass by…. yet  children sass or even hurt,  bills pile up, resentments build in marriages, illness and death are threatening to swallow some as they smile at you in passing. 

 1 Samuel 16:7 But the Lord said to Samuel, “Do not look at his appearance or at his physical stature, because I have refused him. For the Lord does not see as man sees; for the man looks at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.”


The Lord knows exactly how our minds work as we see others based on outward appearances.

 I happen to appear happy in public since I enjoy being around others and most likely I’m looking for the funny around me….but I can also hide my fears, anxieties, and bad attitudes deep in my heart thinking I can break free of these feelings and sins. I cannot. The Lord knows exactly the thoughts and feeings I’m pushing away as if they don’t exist…that is until I’m by myself and dwell on things I keep close to my heart, or when that child sasses me and I sharply react, or when my husband needs my help when I’m overwhelmed and I respond harshly (yeah I can be a butt too).

In our Instagram world it is difficult to see the REAL in those around us. Let’s break free of that and look at the heart instead of the shell…vulnerable connections that will leave us prayerful for others instead of thinking “You seem so….”